I have been with him for 5 years. It has been a roller coaster. The stress, the tears, the anger and mostly the fear. My husband is 47. We just found out last week he was diagnosed with asperger's when he was 12. His father told him last week after my husband and I had a huge fight. His father decided to not tell him and pull him out of therapy. Can you believe it???? We are not in a good place financially. He is so smart but he cant hold a job. I recently lost my job due to business closing. I am going to college full time for art therapy. Im losing it. I really am. I have no clue how to handle this. We cant go to therapy because honestly, we are broke. $5 in the bank. No insurance. Feels like no hope. I am looking for work, so is he. He has noone. A sick, ill narcissistic father, a son who hates him and a daughter who will sleep with anyone. I am all he has. I feel like I am dying, drowning. I need help. There are so many issues. Its too much. I knew something was wrong but I had hopes. He was a raging alcoholic who went to jail for hitting me. He has been sober for 1 1/2 years. He hasn't hit me since he went to jail for 8 months. He has zero common sense. I feel like his mother. Hes like a rebellious teen. Always saying no I didnt, or I dudnt do anything or its not my fault. I am depressed beyond but I care about him. It is a form of love. Im a care taker. How do we get past this? Get better? His outbursts are too much. He cant handle stress or criticism. He freaks out. Help! Anyone! What can we do? I wont end it. He is all alone. Am I as well. Everyone hates him. No one understands.