Hi, I don't really know where to start. I am looking for some advice, tips, guidance... My husband and I just had our 21 year old Autistic Nephew move in with us. He is high functioning autistic, ADHD, with Reactive Attachment Disorder. He was living in a group home several states away and we just couldn't leave him there. My only concern is all he does 24 hours a day is sleep and play video games. Even when we get him to come out of his room, he has his cellphone with him with the remote version of ps4 on it and never stops talking to all these people on the game. I want what's best for him and don't know what is good or bad for him. He had a job at a grocery store for about 2 years before. I have to constantly remind him to take a shower, brush his teeth, take his medicine, pick up items on the floor, and eat. I don't know if I am underestimating his abilities or overestimating his abilities. Any advice or explanation would be greatly appreciated as I don't want to do the wrong thing and am ALL NEW to this.
I was not happy in a Group Home when I lived in one from January 1994 to October 1996 so my parents got me a flat. In 1983 my Uncle and Aunt put me in a Therapeutic Community called Summit in Jerusalem Israel one of the directors was Professor Stanley Schneider who since I left served four and a half years in prison for abusing women and lying about his Qualifications. You can google that so-called Professor. I was not happy in that Therapeutic Community nor was I happy in that Group Home. I am happiest in my own flat and I think it is noble of you to take your nephew in and I do not know what is best for him.
The Group Home for special needs people was in London I still live in London now.
Thank you. I definitely know he was very lonely in the group home. He also has reactive attachment disorder, so I don't think he should have ever been there.